April 1, 2016

Hello April

Can't believe it's April already! Where is time flying? It feels way too fast right now, and I wish I could pause it for a while.. 

Feeling: anxious, nervous, tired 

Loving: Netflix time

Watching: How I met your mother

Eating: Silver-spoon Paratha Roll

Waiting: for some good news

Remembering: the free lazy days

How about you, scribblers?

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March 1, 2016

Hello there, March!

How are you, darlings? Feels like forever since I last wrote! 

To sum up my absence— it was a month-long vacation, followed by a unexciting things like jet-lags, home-sickness, and the struggle of getting back to work and routine. So, that's my explanation for the big break. And now since I am back, I thought I'll start with this little update:

Feeling: happy 

Loving: my new apartment

Watching: Better call Saul

Eating: oatmeal

Waiting: for weekend

Remembering: vacay days

How about you, scribblers?

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January 25, 2016

write love — Loving Yourself: Accepting Who You Are

Do you remember your childhood? I definitely remember mine. I was full of smiles and joy, and I never felt flawed or inadequate. I had magical moments of just being who I really was; I was never worried about societal expectations from me. But as I started to grow older, some of those magical moments started to slowly fade away. I started to compare myself to others and noticed my flaws, which lead me to becoming insecure about certain aspects of myself. All of us at some point have struggled with wavering self-esteem, which can leave us feeling little self-love. But, I’m here to remind you how important it is to feel that self-love, because this will give you the ability to live your life to the fullest. The journey to self-love is one that must start from the inside, so we can truly embrace being our unique selves. 

Every day we are bombarded with images from magazines or social media of people who are thin, beautiful, and always look happy. When we search on YouTube for makeup tips, many of the top results are how-to's on looking like a certain celebrity. This can lead us to feel inadequate in some way—sometimes even leading us to want to drastically change our appearance. Perhaps you’ve been there or know someone who has— whether it be through weight loss or plastic surgery. 

I know I definitely have. My biggest struggle was always with the scale. I’m naturally curvy in the hips, and in high school I placed myself on restriction diets or strict regimented exercise routines. But, no matter how much weight I lost, I still didn’t feel happy. The numbers kept shrinking from the scale, yet I didn’t feel this sense of bliss I thought I would have. That’s because we have to find happiness and self-love from within ourselves. Our appearance really starts from the inside, and that’s where the journey to self-love has to begin. 

My background is in psychology, and part of the reason I studied it is because I am intrigued by how powerful our mind is. Understanding our minds is crucial for developing self-love. Our mind can be our best friend—or our foe— depending on how we treat it. For example, I tend to be a highly emotional person that can see-saw from one spectrum of emotion to another in the snap of a finger—if you are a Scorpio you probably feel my pain on this one! I used to berate myself for being so emotional, especially when I found myself swimming in a sea of negative emotions. 

But, what I didn’t realize is that in those negative emotions, I found room for improvement in my life and ways that I could make my life more positive. I stopped being angry at myself for when I was in a negative space, and learned to accept it for who I was. When I stopped trying to fight who I was, my life became infinitely easier. I was able to just know who I was and accept myself for exactly that. I felt the love for who I was as a person, and didn’t feel the need to change or be anyone else. 

To develop a healthy relationship with the mind and start to develop our self-love, we must really get to know our inner workings. The first step is that you have to accept yourself truly—flaws and all. This part of the journey to self-acceptance isn’t always easy, but it is a necessary step. Many times in our life, when we find a flaw in ourselves, we use it to compare ourselves to others. We feel inadequate when we do this, and it leaves us in a very negative mental head space. When I find myself in these mental loops of comparing myself to others, I try to catch myself thinking and remind myself that everyone has some sort of flaw. There is not one person who is perfect—we are all born with our strengths and our weaknesses. I try to remember this truth, and I encourage you to do the same. 

When we start to recognize that we can offer the world, we feel empowered and our self-love starts to shine through. When we truly accept ourselves from the inside, we are able to accept ourselves from the outside as well. We realize we aren’t perfect—we all have our flaws, quirks, and inadequacies—but that is ok. Each of us is blessed with different talents and gifts that we can offer to the world. We all have something special inside of us, and we should not focus on comparing ourselves to another person, but rather be happy that they can showcase their special talent or gift, just as we can. 

Truly loving ourselves takes courage and strength because we must be open to the fact that we aren’t perfect. We must accept that aspect of ourselves in order to just be who we really are. As the cold winter approaches, there is something you must remember. No two snowflakes are alike, and neither are two people. You are a special and unique person, who has so much to offer the world. Be you, smile at the beauty in others, and remember to spread the love.


Spreading the love is something I am very passionate about. My background is in Psychology, with an emphasis on the fields of relationship counseling and positive psychology. I spend my time building relationships with others, with the goal of inspiring people to live their lives fully from their hearts and fulfilling their dreams. I have a personal blog which you can read here (http://absoulutelyanna.com/about-me/), where I write about the following: love, following your heart, balanced living, and travel. I’m from the United States, but love being an expat! Currently, I am based out of Bonn, Germany.

January 18, 2016

write love — Love and Happiness

I recently made the decision to be happy. Sounds ridiculous right? Surely everyone wants to be happy. Well that may be what people would like to think but how many of us base our happiness on conditions. I will be happy when… 
  • I have a nice car 
  • I move to a big house 
  • I get a better job 
  • Someone loves me

Making an active choice to be happy means to be content in life regardless of conditions. This is especially true for my last listed condition; I will be happy when someone loves me. 

Love is an important part of the human experience and it is true that to find happiness without love would be very difficult but we cannot rely on anyone else’s adoration of us. If we base our happiness on this condition we will inevitably be let down at some point. 

The most important person you must learn to love is yourself. 

We have all heard the expression that you cannot expect anyone to love you if you can’t love yourself and in my opinion never a truer word has been spoken. 

To love your self is not arrogance; it is not to be full of yourself or to think you are above other people. To love your self is simply to acknowledge and accept yourself for who you are with all your perfect imperfections. 

Something remarkable happens when you turn your attention to self-love. You no longer accept being treated any less than you deserve. This means that the relationships you allow into your life fit with you and your brilliance. Never again will you accept second best. 

Self-love is a challenge at times; we are all human and seem to have a natural ability to criticize. There are lots of practical ways to improve self-love here are a few… 
  • Make a list of all the things you love about your self • Read that list at least once a day and really feel grateful about those positive points. 
  • Don’t focus on the negative if you feel yourself start to think something negative, stop the momentum. Go back to that list. 
  • Think about something active you love doing and find a way to do it more. Do you love walking, playing a sport, cooking. Doing things you love that you are good at will raise your self-esteem. 
  • Don’t leave your-self at the bottom of the list. You are important and you are more use to others if you are in a good place. Take the time to take care of you. 
  • Don’t accept being treated in a way that makes you feel bad. This doesn’t necessarily mean getting into aggressive exchanges of words, sometimes you simply need to walk away with your head held high. 

Love is a complex subject with many types and varying intensities but the most valuable love to focus on is the love of you. The rest will then fall into place.


Lisa Barry— Wife, mother, freelance writer and blogger. 

"I live in the South Wales Valleys and spend my days juggling my 3 young girls with my love of writing. I have found a way to combine the two with my blog; The Contented Family Project. This is where I document the reality of family life as I strive to make it stress free and contented (this of course is near impossible but we have lots of fun and revelations along the way)!"

January 11, 2016

write love — L.O.V.E.

I love anything and everything which is Purple.. Hehe.. Just kidding! 

Talking about "LOVE" has never been easy for me.. Once upon a time when I was in high school I thought it's something only for those who are about get married.. Hehe..(I know that sounds little creepy)! 

Let me tell you a story.. 

A girl that is been loved too much by her family and was eldest among all her brothers and sisters once fell in love with this weird guy who was exactly opposite to what she was. 

This guy was a lunatic. He was everything which this poor girl never wanted. At every step she just knew he was lying but still she chose to be with him(may be that's what we call DESTINY). 

She drifted away with him, leaving behind her family and closest friends. Her sister told her she was making a mistake, her brother stopped talking to her. Nothing stopped her and as always her parents agreed to what she decided for herself. 

Days turned into months and months into years, both of them decided to tie a knot. That's where the real story begun. 

Deep down the girl never trusted her guy, but since she was determined so they both got married. Gradually the guy started doing everything to keep his girl happy. He surprised her, made her laugh, took her to the vacations, loved her in all possible ways. The life which was once topsy turvy, has turned into the most beautiful fairytale. 

Today the girl who was once her daddy's princess have become the QUEEN. And the KING whose magical touch brought the soul back in her body is that the same Lunatic Guy!!!

Happies Endings.. 
P.S. I Love My King


In her own words: "Purple.. Family.. Best Friends.. Tea.. Cards.. Letters.. Gifts.. Books.. Love.. Loyalty.. Writing.. I guess this says all about me!!!" Follow Gopul at I write for Peace.

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